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No Cuffing Zone!

Now, I have never been shy about being a member of Team “Don’t Chase ‘cuz Chicks Choose”, and I am equally adamant about not co-signing guys who suffocate girls without being in a relationship—suffocation, at that point, seems to be greatly subjective, as a number of girls may enjoy that type of stalker-ish, 24/7, “I see you” attention. Lol—but seriously.

Many of you probably identify this construct by its slang term, “handcuffing” or simply “cuffing”, a practice in which you may or may not have engaged. My particular disgust with this ties to the fact that I believe this stems from insecurity projected onto other people. While the ladies contain full capacity for this type of behavior, for the sake of multiple pronouns and character space, I will speak from to male perspective.

I, personally, feel that possessive guys may as well wear a sign that says, “I know you could probably take my girl, and since I know that, and you know that, and you know that I know that you know that, I will be cuffing her and she will not leave my side for the entire night!” Weak, right? The conveyance of this insecurity not only appears apparent to the perceived adversary but to the significant other, as well. No one enjoys being suffocated. That is why we are taught to keep plastic bags from over our heads early in life. Think on that!

Cuffing, also, explicitly displays a sense of distrust in regards to the partner. When someone truly feels comfortable within a relationship, he feels no need to provide ‘round the clock surveillance because he feels genuinely secure in knowing, “I am the better deal, and even if she was lured away, she is dumb for that. I would be able to re-up pretty quickly, anyway.”

This attitude, which I admittedly adopted around the time of my sophomore year of high school, flirts dangerously with the line between a cool nonchalance and emotional numbness. I believe there is a time and place for emotional numbness, however toting an icebox in your chest like the Grinch or 2007 Omarion can completely disable someone from taking part in significant, constructive, and lasting relationships, which I later learned, as well.

Balance is the key, similar to so many other scenarios; one can care and invest without suffocating and/or monitoring the other person like an inmate at Alcatraz. If the trust presents the actual issue, then a greater problem exists, which should be addressed to preserve the relationship, if it is, indeed, worth saving.

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