WHO ARE YOU?
WHO ARE YOU?
Who are you? What do you stand for? What’s your favorite color? What are your fears, wants, and needs? We need to start asking ourselves questions about who we are and what we want out of life. In my past experiences, I’ve learned so much about myself. When your back is against the wall, things about you tend to be revealed. When you are happy, you see different sides of yourself. When you are sad, you see things about yourself and others that you may or may not want to deal with. Whether it’s positive or negative, you learn more and more about yourself. You learn how to love yourself more and more. You deal with people differently and trust yourself over anything else. Your faith goes a bit deeper and you start to grow up. You develop into this person that you’ve been asking others about for so long. All you had to do is ask yourself the whole time and trust that you have the right answers. When we were younger, it was so hard to find out where we belonged but as we got older we realized more and more of who we were and who we are becoming. I realized in this last relationship that I was a strong, independent woman and I wasn’t anything of who he claimed I was. Don’t let others tell you your worth. It takes a very insecure person and situation to let go of a good love for a known bad one. Let them go. Only they can see what was good for them and what is bad for them. You can’t change them. You can change you. Know who you are before entering any relationship or friendship. Let people know where you stand when necessary. I believed that I was irritating, selfish, insecure, jealous, etc. I was NONE of those things at all. In fact, I was one of the most secure people he had ever dealt with. I learned a lot about me and about him. He just wasn’t ready for a good love. After analyzing our relationship, I realized how torn he was and battered from his past. I had nothing to do with any of that so I showed him good love. I was more in tuned with myself and very secure. I made sure his ego was stroked, he was ok, listened to his problems, assured him things would get better, and showed him a better outlook on his life. Unfortunately, he took that information and made his old relationship better instead of the new one with me. In reality, it was a blessing for me to see what I don’t want in my next relationship that God blesses me with. I would smile when he called or text but then he got tired of talking to me and was very irritated with me for no reason at all. This was my last sign that he wasn’t the man for me but I knew God sent him my way to show me just who I am. I was strong enough to walk away and still ask God to bless him and who he chose to be with. You can’t force situations to work out because you are afraid to be alone. Sometimes it’s what’s best. Your alone time is worth more than making a fool of yourself in front of everyone. I thought that God loved me so much he sent my ex to me and I smiled each day and thanked God. What I didn’t know is sometimes God turns the tables to bring the best out of us in bad situations to shape and mold us for His glory later on. It’s not when you want it but in His time. Even through my pain, God still loved me and showed me. I know He cried when I cried and was hurt when I hurt. That’s how parents see their children. We hurt when they do so my heavenly father carried me through. I realized that I was so strong because I simply walked away knowing I gave my all to someone that just didn’t appreciate it. It is true that when people hurt they hurt the ones that are closest to them and love them not the ones that actually did the damage. So don’t look at a bad situation as it’s your fault. We all make mistakes and do things that are wrong but it’s what you learn from that mistake that shapes you into who you are. Don’t think you can’t be without that person. You were breathing before you met them and you will be just fine without them. All you need is God’s hand and things will work out either way. Believe in yourself and who you are. Stay grounded on who you are and don’t let others manipulate you into believing you are less of what God made you to be. You are worth so much more and so am I. Stand firm, stand tall, and believe in YOU. Until the next time “love yourself and you’ll find love all around you” – Val Watts
